Grace and Characater Defects

            “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”  — Marilyn Monroe

Many of us may share Marilyn's attitude. We are unwilling to be changed. But let's face: Change does not come easily! There is a Chinese saying which goes something like this: ‘It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character....' I've found this to be true even in my own life. How about you?

In my experience, and the experience of millions of others, it is only God who can ultimately remove my character defects. If this true, then what is my role in being changed? 


Well, as I see it, my role is first of all to notice (develop self-awareness) and then admit my defects honestly (the obstacle, of course, is my pride). I must surrender to God (the obstacle here is my spirit of self-reliance and independence), and pull on His grace (the obstacle: my general unwillingness, laziness, or my desire to hold on to them). I must be willing to 'be changed' (this can happen if I become tired of living a lie or weary of the effects indulging my defects brings into my life and the lives of those I love). I must be willing to accept the leading (the will) and grace of God (his divine enablement and power) for that change.


At the end of the day, it is noticing and honestly admitting our weaknesses (to self, God, and others) that may be the greatest challenge for most of us on the road to change. 


By the way, remember that 'nature abhors a vacuum'; it is not enough to remove a character defect- something new and better must take its place. God is ready to help in this matter as well.


That's how I see.